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You’re Not JUST…

Whenever someone asked me, what did your mom do for a living, I would say she’s a full-time mom. But then as I got older, not only was she a full-time mom, she also had a full-time job outside of the house. On top of that, my mom was also a full-time wife, part-time volunteer, and an unpaid caregiver. So when thinking about my mom, you can’t just think a mom. I have to think about her and her roles in life as a whole in order to see all of her.


A split-panel painting features three close-up portraits of a woman, each depicting her with different skin tones and eye colors, presented in a style reminiscent of oil painting with visible brushstrokes. The leftmost panel shows a woman with fair skin, light brown hair, and striking blue eyes. She has a subtle blush on her cheeks and wears a patterned top. The central panel is split down the middle of her face. The left side of this central panel shows her with a rich, warm brown skin tone and dark brown eyes, with strong reddish undertones and a more pronounced blush. The right side of this central panel shows her with a lighter, more olive skin tone and dark brown eyes, with less pronounced color in her cheeks. The rightmost panel depicts the woman with an olive skin tone, dark brown hair, and green eyes. Her cheeks have a healthy flush, and she is wearing a reddish garment. All three depictions share the same facial structure and serene expression, emphasizing the variations in complexion and eye color across the different panels. The background behind each portrait is a soft, muted color, shifting from a light blue on the left to a muted green on the right.

Of course, this is true for many people and the different roles that they play in life. While my mom will always be a mom, she is not taking care of us full-time in any longer. She is no longer my caregiver, and she no longer has a full-time job.


I went from being a full-time daughter, working full-time, a caregiver, needing care, and only being able to work part-time. I was a student but not anymore, and I no longer need a caregiver. I am also no longer a caregiver.


If you think about your roles in life, what are they? You are not just one thing to one person. You are many things to many people. Maybe you just don’t know it. After speaking with a close friend of mine, I realized she needs to be seen as whole. In order to move forward with her dreams we have to start at the beginning.


My friend is a full-time wife, a full-time mother, a full-time caregiver, and working as many hours as possible. Oh yeah, she’s also an entrepreneur! If I took away, just one aspect of any of these things then that means that I’m denying a part of her.


A triptych of images shows an Asian woman in three different settings, suggesting various aspects of her life. The left panel features the woman in a professional setting. She is seated at a dark wooden desk, dressed in a dark suit jacket over a white blouse, and wearing glasses. She holds a pen and appears to be signing or writing on a document. Her hair is pulled back in a ponytail, and she looks towards the viewer with a slight smile. The background shows a window with light streaming in, and shelves with books or binders. The central panel depicts a more intimate, domestic scene. The woman is seated on a brown sofa, gently embraced by a man from behind. She is wearing a dark green long-sleeved top and a patterned skirt, holding a patterned mug. Both she and the man are smiling, looking relaxed and content. On the coffee table in front of them, there are several mugs, a box, and some crumpled paper, suggesting a cozy, lived-in atmosphere. On the wall behind them, several framed portraits of the woman are visible, some depicting her younger or in different styles. The right panel shows the woman in a bright, possibly artistic or creative environment. She stands with her hands clasped in front of her, wearing a colorful floral-patterned dress. She has a name tag clipped to her dress and smiles warmly at the viewer. Her dark hair is down. The background is a vibrant, abstract painting with blues, oranges, and white, along with some dried grasses in a vase and potted plants, contributing to an artistic and lively ambiance.

Have you ever felt ignored or like someone saying you are just…?


Because you are never just one thing.

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